You found this page for a reason. Most women who arrive here already know something is wrong — they just haven't had the words for it yet.
You have spent years walking on eggshells, wondering what you did wrong, apologising for things that were not your fault.
You kept the house running, kept the children happy, kept the social face intact — while quietly disappearing inside.
Something has shifted recently. Maybe you have left. Maybe you are still inside it. Maybe the relationship ended long ago and you still do not feel free. Wherever you are, you are not behind.
If you are still in the relationship, or have only recently left, or are not even certain yet that what you experienced counts as abuse — this is the right place to start.
"Why Do I Feel Like This Is My Fault?" is a free guide. It walks through six stages women move through when something is wrong in a relationship but they cannot quite name it.
It was written for the woman who still second-guesses herself. The woman who has Googled 'am I overreacting' at 2am. The woman who can feel that something is wrong but cannot explain it to anyone else.
Download the free guide. No pressure, no sales sequence that won't leave you alone. Just the guide, and an occasional email from me when I have something worth saying.
No pressure, no sales sequence that will not leave you alone. Just the guide for free, and an occasional email from me when I have something worth saying.
I have written several books, each for a different stage. You do not need to read them in order though they are listed in a possible order below. It all depends upon where you are in your journey so read the one that meets you where you are.
I don't know if what happened to me was real
For the woman still trying to understand what she was actually in.
This is not a book about leaving. It is a book for the woman who is still trying to make sense of what happened. It names the patterns, validates the confusion, and gives you the language for an experience that was designed to be unexplainable.
Start reading it today :-)
I know something is wrong. I need to understand it.
For the women who keeps asking herself the same questions.
This book answers the question directly. It separates what belongs to you and what was put into you. It is written for the women who has spent years absorbing blame for somebody else's behaviour and is ready to stop.
Start getting clarification today!
For the woman who knows he was wrong for her - and still cannot break free of him.
The craving is not weakness. It is not love. It is your brain running a loop it was trained to run during the relationship, and this books explains exactly why and what to do about it. ten chapters of neuroscience and journalling prompts and practical tools for the woman who is tired of being told to just move on.
Feel more in control from today!
I am out. I now need to rebuild
For the woman who knows what happened and is ready for what comes next.
This is the practical guide i wish had existed. Not the inspiration. Not the affirmations. The actual steps, in sequence, for rebuilding your identity, your confidence, your financial independence and your life. Written by someone who has done it.
It is never too late to start.
Someone I love is going through this
For the partner, the friend, the adult child who wants to understand.
This book is for those who love a woman who has had a narcissistic relationship. It explains what she lived inside, why she stayed and why she did not tell you, and what will actually help her now. It is not a manual for fixing her. It is a map for understanding her.
Get the clarification you seek now!
My name is Catherine. I spent 29 years in a marriage that slowly and systematically dismantled the person I was. I did not leave dramatically. I left quietly, and then I spent years rebuilding everything — my identity, my confidence, my finances, my sense of what I was capable of.
I am not a therapist or a psychologist. I do not have letters after my name. What I have is something more specific than that: I have been exactly where you are. And I came out the other side.
At nearly 60, I own property, I sail solo, I have built financial independence from scratch, and I write for the women who are still in the middle of it. Not to tell you what to do. To show you what is possible.